Because I’ve been spending some time going through mom’s things and picking out stuff that I think she would want others to have – I’ve been thinking a lot about our friends (my friends and my mom’s friends).
My mom did not have a TON of close friends. She was nice to everyone, but she really had to LIKE you and TRUST you to consider you a “friend.” She deeply loved her friends and my friends. I know my friends deeply loved her back. So much, in fact, that I think some of my friends were my friends because of her 🙂 Which is fine, she was much cooler. Some of my favorite memories of my friends are times when we were hanging out with my mom. Playing cards, getting our fortunes read, or just talking. I used to host parties at my parent’s house, even though I had my own home. The reason for that is because I thought my mom was so cool and who wouldn’t want to hang out with her?! When I did start hosting parties at my house, I always made her come too.
My mom would start a conversation with anyone. We have so many family friends that we met because they were our waiter at Cracker Barrel or maybe they were our cashier at Target. She loved and wanted to talk to just about anyone…I will miss that. I also love that she taught me to be open. She loved everyone, regardless of race, sexual orientation, whatever…I think I’m like that too and that’s because of her.
I’ll leave you with some Toni-isms…
“You better test drive that car before you buy it.” (ummm…she wasn’t talking about cars)
“Lack of planning on your part does not constitute an emergency on my part.”
“I still love you, I just don’t love what you are doing.”
“Watch your tone, young lady!”
I miss her,